You're readying for a move and you have a million
things to take care of: closing the deal on your new house or apartment,
completing paperwork and legal documents, anticipating your new job, and
scheduling a pick-up, but it is important that you don't neglect your children.
Take some time to discuss the upcoming events with them. Children take their
cues from their parents, so make sure that you stay upbeat and positive
throughout the entire moving process. Help them see the move as an exciting new
beginning.
Be sure to announce the move in a completely positive way.
You might talk about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good the schools
are. Bring your children to the new house, if you live close enough that it is
possible to do so. Otherwise, positively describe the new house. Find out what
your children's favorite things are in your current home, and then try to
re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively involved in the
process. For instance, don't just promise that they can decorate their new
rooms, but take them shopping for paint, bedspreads, carpets, and other items
that will make the experience more fun and comforting.
Remember,
although you may have lived in your current residence for just a few years, the
same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or eight-year-old, and can
include all the years he or she can remember. Your current residence may be the
only home your children have ever known, where they feel safe and comfortable.
It may be the center of your children's world.
 When is the best time to move?
 Unfortunately, there is no "best" time to move
with your children. Unless you count moving only after you've discussed it with
your children. Get their input about the timing of the move. Try to avoid making
your word the law.
It'll be very hard for your teen if you decide to
relocate during their senior year of high school, right before they graduate.
For your younger children, a move during the school year will allow them
to immediately go from one social setting into another. They'll be recieving
more attention from classmates and the teacher as the "new kid." On the other
hand, a summer move may allow your children to become better acclimated with
their surroundings. This way they won't be thrust into unfamiliar territory both
at school and at home.
Your children may not like the reasons for the move,
but with good communication, they'll understand them.
Whenever you feel
that things are spinning out of control, find a diversion! Take a walk around
your new neighborhood, go on a day trip out of town with your family, or take
your family to a movie. Whatever diversion or outlet works best for you, this is
a good time to engage in it! Remember to take one "move" at a
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